name changes

ok so since this blog is public and these are foster kids until finalization--they will from here on out be referred to as princess and lil man--i have already changed it in my other post

I'M GOING TO BE A MOMMIE!!!!!

The 2 kids i kind of made mention of before..9month old boy named lil man and 2 year old girl named princess...mom and dad relinquished their rights today and gave the court consent for me to adopt as a nonrelative kinship..and the tribe gave good cause (meaning they are allowing me to adopt even though i am not indian) and the kid's attorney gave consent and the judge gave permission to proceed (she will be the one finalizing for us)

i am sorry--what is your job exactly??

fracking monkeys run the state Current mood: annoyed
so..i asked the HR lady who is in charge of leave..she handles all the FMLA and disability stuff for people who need to take off..supposedly she is also the person who would know what type of things leave would be covered for and how to access it right (you would think)so i talked to her today and told her that i was going to be adopting and when we accept placement i would like to take time off work to you know do things like set up day care, bond, get to know the kid..what do i need to do to make this happen..she says when you finalize turn in the order from the judge..i was like finalization will be AT LEAST 6 months after the child is placed in my home..that does not help with the 1st few weeks. She was like well i think FMLA cover adoption (it does) but i dont know..hmm isnt this your job? She then tells me of other workers who have adopted and i should ask them..i am sorry i am not comfortable emailing some random person and saying "oh hey, brenda told me you adopted and that you need to tell me what to do about leave"...ISNT that her job to find out...any way that just did not make me happy..i guess i need to send an email up higher to find out.

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i am in a bad mood..i am blogging so i do not eat..there is a pint of ben and jerry's in the freezer i am trying to resist.

65 things update

ok one month has gone by and here is where i stand:
Send a card/letter to someone once a month (counts as complete after 6 months) I had several opportunities to do this this month and did not.
Organize/start a girl's night out
Donate food to food pantry (Does this count if my DH did it?)
Run a 5K
Volunteer at least 10 hours 0/10
Read bible- 15 minutes a day for 30 days (will restart each time I miss a day) 0/30
Pay it Forward-- I'm going to work out the details, but I think I'm going to do a book exchange or a homemade thing-- the first three people who responded get something handmade by me, and they have to do the same thing for three other people)
Meet up with an old friend does Myspace and Facebook count??
Make our Bedroom a place we want to be I did clean from top to bottom..and going to redecorate in the next few months
Increase our "intimate time" to at least 10 times a month (count as complete after 4 months) This was kind of difficult as we were both sick for 2 weeks
Respect chris more (not sure how to quantify this. Suggestions? )
Organize Closets
Organize all files – set up system
Organize CD's, DVD's, Games, etc.
Try 20 new Recipes - 4 new recipes this month :)
Go on a trip for our Anniversary (alone) (will have to be rainchecked as our anniversay was 2 weeks ago)
Go on a girls' weekend for my birthday
Plan a birthday party for Chris
Go to the lake
Go camping
Catch a fish
Go to the state fair
Go to a concert I saw Larkin at Arnies..need to remember to blog about this
Go on a picnic
Visit 3 of the USA's top 41 wonders
Lose 20 lbs.
Lose 40 lbs.
Lose 60 lbs.
Wear Size 14 Jeans
Buy a pair of $100+ jeans
Get a Mani-Pedi
Get Massage
Get a Facial/Eyebrow Wax
Get haircut 4 times 1/4 Got my hair cut saturday..need to post pic..I love it
Go to Doctor (Ob/Gyn)
Get fitted for a Bra
Complete a Jigsaw Puzzle (1000+ pieces)
Play FrisbeeGolf with Chris-
Play a night of poker with the guys
Design the back yard flower beds
Plant the back yard flower beds
Fly a Kite
Sing at a Karaoke bar
Go to an Aquarium
Build a Snowman
Throw a snowball at Chris (These last 2 i am not sure will happen this year as we have gotten NO snow..and we usually already have a snow day)
Decorate the house for Halloween
Take picture in a photo booth
Learn to crotchetCrochet something and give it as a gift
Learn to decorate a cake
Buy at least 5 gifts from ebay 0/5
Start a scrapbook
Blog at least 20 times a month (complete after 4 months) (does this count?) Dont think i made 20 this month
Host a blog giveaway
Blog as I complete each goal
RELearn to change my oil
plant a veggi garden
Take some type of "fun" class-- cake decorating, Thai cooking, something like that.
Read 10 books -
Increase retirement contributions
Increase savings account by $5000
Get organized at work
Practice supervisor interviewing
Make new list of 65 thing