wow 2 blogs in one day

i must be bored..i am getting cabin fever like nothing! i would go dig my truck out in a heart beat if i thought i could get further down the road from the front of my house!

talked to mama E and she is in fact pregnant, 13 weeks to be be exact. i asked her if she was still will daddy C and of course they are and "he has changed" but she could not really tell me how he has changed. i warned her that there is a good chance CPS could come in and take the baby and i told her i actually knew a month ago that she was pregnant before she ever told me, and it was not a member of her family that told me. She of course is hoping CPS wont be involved, and i told her that she needs to think about what daddy C is doing cause he could cause her to lose this baby too.
i asked her if she would be ok IF the baby is taken for me to be the foster parent and of course she said yes, but i just wanted to make sure, if she would have said no, i would not take the baby should it come to custody. I have no problem working with her as a bridge parent, but i have major issues with working with him.
i also told her that if she gets lucky and CPS does not take the baby i will be on her like white on rice making sure that baby is safe and she can bet her life if i suspect he is selling drugs or beating her up in front of the baby i will personally make a referal. i hope i got through to her, but i suspect she does not get it :(

i did let her talk to the drool prince, he does not know her at all so it was a good conversation, she got to hear him talk and he held a conversation with her. She got to hear nixie but something about the weather change has made her lose her mind and i decided not to risk a huge tantrum. i will plan a visit with her soon.

So anyway, unless mama E gets really lucky--it looks like in 6 months i could be getting a baby!

blizzard 2011

all about me monday..

Super Bowl is right around the corner...

1.What’s your favorite sport to watch?
2. Will you watch the Super Bowl?
3. Packers, Steelers, or could care less?
4. What’s more entertaining: the game, the commercials, or the halftime show?
5. What’s your favorite bring-to-the-party appetizer?
6. Be honest: did you even know who was playing before reading this?

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1.What’s your favorite sport to watch?
i am a college football fan, i could care less about the other stuff

2. Will you watch the Super Bowl?
i will probably fast forward through the game to watch the commercials


3. Packers, Steelers, or could care less?
i am really rooting for the packers, my brother from another mother, almost went and played for them until he had to have ankle surgery

4. What’s more entertaining: the game, the commercials, or the halftime show?
The commercials. i never watch the half time show and since i am indifferent to the game i will mostly be watching the commercials

5. What’s your favorite bring-to-the-party appetizer?
chips and dip or meatballs in marinara


6. Be honest: did you even know who was playing before reading this?
i did, i have a lot of friends who are die hard fans of both teams and it is amazing how much information you can get off facebook

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lessons

i have decided that some people are just addicted to drama..i dont know if it is because they have nothing better to do, if it makes them feel important or what but it wears me out.
i went to visit a friend from high school the other day and she was telling me about the "old crew" and all the DRAMA that surrounds them, and she seems to be in the middle of it all. She was like it is causing her health problems, her family gets dragged into the middle of it, it is just crazy the stuff she was telling me. She told me, "you know that is what i like about you and your sister, you never get involved in the side taking or drama" My thought was i dont have time for all that..between the crazies at work, baby mama drama, sister drama..i dont need to mix myself up in the high school drama. I have cut family out of my life before due to the drama i can do it again.
Sometimes you just have to cut ties and move on. If people are going to pull you in to their fights and whatnot over stuff that has nothing to do with you, you need to say peace out and walk away. Drama is fun for a little while..occassionally like to hear the stories of what is going on between what friend and whatnot but i really wanted to come home after visiting her and start deleting friends off facebook. I am glad i am not that involved with all of them, i think i would have to ram my head in a wall.
man let it go, move on, if you hate so and so cause she stole you cheating boyfriend 10 years ago, move on. If you were the dirty little secret and then oh my he cheats on you..why are you shocked? if you set your standards low just so you can say you have a girl/boyfriend why are you shocked when they turn out to be psychopaths?
I was tired when i left there...but i felt amazingly happy with my life, maybe that is what i needed....maybe that is why i will not delete them from my life.

hmmm what to do

so i found out the kids mom is pregnant for real this time..i am not sure how far along but i know that baby daddy is selling and using drugs and beating her up and she has decided to stay with him. so that means the baby will probably come into custody and i will be asked to take the baby since i have the sibling. Here is the--hm i dont want to say problem, but the situation, it will be ICWA which means mom will get a treatment plan, i hope she does and i hope she completes it, unfortunately it does not matter how much work she does if he does not do anything and she stays with him, but i hope losing her other kids helped put some perspective on what she needs to do. That being said, while i would jump at the chance to foster this baby and help mom out, 1) dh does not want to foster, 2) with as many issues we had with princess who will now be called DIVA, i am not sure it will be a good idea bringing in baby, having mom do all these visits with baby and get baby back, i am not sure what that would do to her, i would hope that since she has no memory of ever living with her mom that it would not do much and i will be able to explain what is going on. DH says we will take the baby once rights are terminated but if we are asked and declined they will not let us come in at term and say oh never mind we will take the baby now...the department kind of frowns on that..
my real hope is that she leaves baby daddy and continues to do well on her own and gets to keep her baby...but i fear for this babies safety if she chooses to stay with baby daddy...and in case anyone is wondering i did tell her this when i talked to her at christmas that i thought she was making a terrible decision to stay with him.

sigh...

what would you guys do....